I can remember watching the show “Girlfriends” and wondering where are my girlfriends like that? Those girls went through hell and back with each other and still were able to remain friends. You really do not see those types of relationships in real life. As I have grown, I have learned that some friendships only last for a season, which means they were only meant for that time and place in your life. Then there are those friendships that come sporadically and tend to pop up and pop out whenever they want too. Last, you will have those friendships that have developed overtime, growing and maturing and those are the ones you can count on for life.
Finding that one true friend can be difficult for so many reasons. One of the main reasons why is because as women we are not so trusting. Many times for us the trust has been broken and we find ourselves not opening up to others because of fear of being hurt and disappointed. I myself have gone through those hardships with friendships; finding myself delighted to meet a new friend and only be disappointed because they weren’t genuine.
So, how do you maintain a healthy friendship and keep yourself open for news ones? I mean geesh, friendships ain’t easy because people aren’t easy and we have to remember we are all different. First, we have to understand friendships are like a marriage in a way. It will have a honeymoon phase and a bunch of highs and lows and just like any marriage, you have to work at keeping it together. By exercising patience, love, forgiveness, honesty ( but not too brutal) and most importantly, growth, anyone of us can keep our friendships being filled with fun, laughter, cry fest, and love. Taking the time to heal from a bad friendship takes time ( just like a bad breakup) and allowing time before entering a new one, will provide room for new ones to develop. Although, we should all realize not everyone is meant to be in our circle of friendships. Finding and having that true friendship, is a beautiful thing and if you find someone needing a friend then do not be afraid to reach out, you never know that could be the friend you truly need.